Friday, January 17, 2025

BookMarks #122: The Fine Art of Small Talk


Title
: The Fine Art of Small Talk
Author: Debra Fine
Genre: Non-fiction, Self-help
Published: 1997

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A book targeting the introverts, who find it difficult to make and continue conversations in informal settings. Some of the techniques suggested to be a good conversationalist are:
  • Express empathy
  • Greet people warmly, make eye contact and smile
  • Be first to say hello
  • Use the person's name and correctly
  • Show an interest in others
  • Dig deeper
  • Be a good listener and an active one
  • Stop being an adviser
  • Find connections to continue the conversation
  • Don't kill conversation
  • Don't just question
And most importantly Practice, in effect Fake it till it becomes a second nature.

While the tips are there some of the content is repetitive. Some of the opening lines suggested can border on the rude. And the author makes the assumption that the other person is also mutually interested in a conversation!

Overall, an okayish read. The nook can be much shorter and feels more like a dragged out Ted Talk kind of presentation. 

Previously on BookMarks: Train To Pakistan 

Friday, December 27, 2024

Goodbye 2024

As the Year 2024 AD draws to a close, it is safe to say as a collective, humankind has moved on from the challenges of the Covid pandemic. As we bid farewell to the year going by, time to reflect on and recall a few of the memories to hold on (or maybe not)

1. Word of the Year
Brain Rot was chosen as Oxford’s Word of the Year – the phenomenon of damage to mental health from an ever-increasing consumption of social media with its echo chambers, endless doomscrolling. All of us are victims of it only the impact varies. Its really time to get off the screen!

2. The Geopolitical Chessboard
It has been more than a decade since the last recognized country, South Sudan, came into existence – relatively such a prolonged period of stability in the global political map has been unprecedented. However, this balance is certainly in threat. The Russia-Ukraine conflict is in its 3rd year, Israel has multiple battle fronts open in the Middle East with both state and non-state actors. Simultaneously, regional skirmishes continue to flare up in various parts of the world. On the other hand, many governments changed either democratically or were thrown out. 

Regime changes in Syria, Bangladesh, India-Canada diplomatic stand-off, Iran firing missiles into Pakistan, Myanmar-Bangladesh border clashes, Assassination attempts in Europe & USA, South Korean President declaring martial law and getting impeached - the list seems endless. The whole global geopolitical landscape seems to be a tinderbox waiting to explode. And the people in-charge at best seem unwilling to prevent the explosion or worse adding fuel to the fire.

And the weapons in the war games have expanded - from sanctions and diplomatic cutoffs to missiles and exploding pagers!

3. The Bureaucratic Masterstroke
Donald Trump has announced the creation of DOGE – the Department of Government Efficiency – an advisory body to streamline the government’s functioning! And there are TWO people in-charge of it. The makers of Yes Minister must be kicking themselves for not coming up with this storyline. Somewhere, irony is having a hearty laugh!

4. We Are The Champions
It came home and in grand style. Multiple players in the Candidates, followed by both Open & Women’s Team winning the Chess Olympiad titles, Arjun Erigiasi breaking into elite 2800 ratings club, a 3-year old Anish Sarkar becoming a rated player. All culminating in Gukesh becoming the youngest undisputed World Chess Champion.
Not many sports have had such a success. Chess certainly has been the showstopper in a year in which India won the Men’s T20 World Cup and Neeraj Chopra further cemented his status as India’s GOAT sportsperson.

5. The Fine Margins
Battling back from hell and then being thrown back in – what a tragedy it was for Vinesh Phogat. A turbulent build-up to the Games, a draw which couldn’t have been tougher, a win for the ages, reaches the Final. The stage was set for a fairytale finish even Disney would have been proud of. And the next morning it all crumbled down in the most brutal fashion, being disqualified for being unable to cut down the weight by a meagre 100g. That was sports at its cruelest.

6. Sporting (Non-)Performance of the Year
Raygun’s Breaking display at the Paris Games. Enough to ensure that Breaking doesn’t come into Olympics discussion in the near future.

7. The Mt. Everest moment – Video Game edition
Tetris was finally conquered, just 34 years since it first came into being. The seemingly endless game was finally beaten by a 13 year old.

8. The Crowd is on Strike moment
One fine July morning, there was a global Microsoft outage. People couldn’t log into their systems, resulting in work shutting down. Some turned to the old-school pen & paper workaround but things still stayed slow. While this was a scenario straight out of any cyber-attackers’ wildest dreams, the cause was simple - a faulty update being rolled out.

9. The e-queues
The online scramble for concert tickets (Coldplay, Diljt Dosanjh)—and the torrent of hilarious complaints that followed—seems to have made people forget the alternative. At least it’s better than standing in a physical queue, exposed to all the elements, getting jostled around, worrying about pickpockets, or facing the occasional lathi charge!.

10. What is Art?
A question which remains unanswered. After all, if a banana taped to a wall can be sold for $ 6.2 Million, then it raises some existential questions for “artists”. [Aside - the banana was eaten, so now also has its place in the costliest food list, alongwith the two Papa Jones pizza which were bought for 10,000 bitcoins!]

11. And Finally from the animal world
There was Moo Deng, a baby pygmy hippo. But the pride of place must go to a pair of brawling koalas stopping traffic! (Video)

So, this was a bit of 2024. Wishing all readers a Very Happy New Year 2025!

Monday, December 23, 2024

2024 - TYIL

The more I learn, the more I realize that I know nothing.

As another Gregorian calendar year draws to a close, ‘tis time to draw up the list of some totally irrelevant, some funny and some interesting things (or not) which I learnt during its course (or rather remembered to list). So without much ado, here goes #TYIL (or This Year I Learnt), featuring amongst others the usual suspects - Numbers, Economics,  A Japanese term and a big German word.
  1. The IKEA Effect – People tend to value an object more if they make/assemble it themselves. [Decision Lab]
  2. Vellichor – The pleasure of smelling the odour of old books, especially is old bookstores [Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows] (A sibling of petrichor). [Aside - there is a dictionary of obscure sorrows!)
  3. Raketa Watches – A Russian watch company who replace the number 12 by 0 on their dial. [GQ]
  4. 381 km by 381 km – The Maximum possible size of a pdf page, imposed by Adobe Acrobat software. Now if only someone could find a printer for it! [YCombinator
  5. The famous white symbols on green screen from the movie Matrix are actually a Japanese text for a sushi recipe [Wired]. It was once a very popular screensaver.
  6. The names Chital & Cheetah come from the same Sanskrit root Chitrala. [Link
  7. Dutch Disease - When countries experience a sudden large increase in income, the consequences can be harmful. Increased income from a resource boom leads to inflation [Link]
  8. The name jeans comes from the city of Genoa. French “bleu de Genes” or blue of Genoa. [Link
  9. In the initial years, certain Lok Sabha constituencies had 2 MPs elected, one General and one Reserved.[Moneycontrol
  10. Umarell – old men who spend their time watching construction sites, usually with hands behind their backs. An Italian origin word, there has to be an Indian equivalent for people watching JCBs at work! [Wikipedia
  11. Ganko Keitai – the ‘wild-geese-flying pattern’ of economic growth, whereby production shifts from the lead goose (advanced nation) to the next flock of geese (developing nations) [Wikipedia
  12. India’s first Director Identification Number (DIN) was issued to Ratan Tata [Link
  13. 2^136279841 – 1: The largest prime number discovered till date, with over 41 Million digits. It took 6 years to get to the new record. [Mersenne]
  14. Dunkelflaute - a period of time in which little or no energy can be generated with wind and solar power, because there is neither wind nor sunlight. The killer of renewable energy! [Wikipedia
  15. The 1st item in UK supermarket to have a barcode - A box of teabags (Guess can’t go more British than this) [BBC
  16. Cushy – an English word used to describe an easy job environment comes from the Hindi Khushi. Probably how some Brits saw their India posting!
  17. And to round it off, today 23rd December is marked as Christmas Adam - The eve of Christmas Eve (24th December), because as per Christian tradition Adam came before Eve. I guess in some time we will know what happens to 22nd December! [Grammarist
P.S. Lists from 2019, 2020, 2021, 2022 & 2023.

P.P.S Seems the lists are getting smaller every year. Need to get better at recording them.

Sunday, November 03, 2024

Road To LA: Episode 2

We have entered that phase of the Indian sporting cycle where the Olympics sports are all but forgotten. The qualifying cycle is yet to start. Even the Asian Games are two years aways. Yet, away from the spotlight, those on the Road to LA trudge on!

Here is the some of the goings on in Indian sport, both on and off the field in the past couple of months

Athletics
  • Neeraj Chopra: Finished runner-up in the Diamond League despite an injury. And he seems disappointed with his season despite finishing second in all 4 major global events! What an un-Indian characteristic!
  • Avinash Sable: A commendable 9th place finish in the 3000m steeplechase.
Hockey
  • India win the Men's Asian Champions Trophy for the 5th time, comfortably brushing aside all opponents, proving once again that they are now the undisputed continental superpowers! 
  • In further development, the Hockey India League is being revived.
  • 200+ international goals for Harmanpreet Singh – only two absolute legends Dhyan Chand & Balbir Singh Sr. are ahead
Cricket
  • Women: The Indian team failed to qualify for the semi-finals stage of the Women’s T20 World Cup. While there is still a long way to go for LA, this result doesn’t bode too well.
  • Men: Racked up a series win over Bangladesh while missing a few first choice players. Also set a few batting records on the way!
Table Tennis: Both Indian teams won Bronze medals at the Asian Championships, a first for the women and a 3rd one for the men. Showing that the recent gains are built on a good base.

Badminton: The replacements need to come up fast, otherwise Indian badminton seems to be on a downward spiral. There are one-off results like Malvika Bansod defeated Olympics Bronze medalist at the China Open but consistent big tournament wins are missing. Anmol Kharb is the one to track though.

The Off-the-field mess
  • Tennis: Davis Cup tie against Sweden and its aftermath showcased the mess that the sport is in India. And how all the Grand Slam success has been achieved despite the system.
  • Rowing: India misses the Asian Rowing Championships because of Federation’s ongoing court case.
  • IOC: Meanwhile there is lots of brouhaha going on within IOC Chairperson and the members. Members walking out of the meeting, P T Usha releasing letters!
  • As an example, (not an Olympic sport) but on the day, the Indian teams were winning the Gold at the Chess Olympiad, also came the news that the Chess Federation had lost a rolling trophy won at the previous Olympiad!
Retirements
  • Dipa Karmakar has announced her retirement from Gymnastics. 
  • Rani Rampal hangs up her hockey boots.
Many sports are entering the off-season now. We also await more clarity on the LA events list. Meanwhile, the long march continues away from the spotlight for the various challengers!

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Thursday, October 10, 2024

BookMarks #121: Train To Pakistan

Title
: Train To Pakistan
Author: Khushwant Singh
Genre: Fiction, Historical
Published: 1956

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Muslims said the Hindus had planned and started the killing. According to the Hindus, the Muslims were to blame. The fact is, both sides killed. Both shot and stabbed and speared and clubbed. Both tortured. Both raped

Train To Pakistan is set in India at the time of Partition. It’s a story of how a political act changes the lives of the villagers living near the border. How people who have lived together for generations in harmony are suddenly changed. One fine day, people do not find themselves safe in the their home lands and are forced to move to another. And there are those who loot and pillage, other seek revenge and the cycle of horror continues. The officials are nearly as helpless.

It is a harrowing tale. One wonders for the people uprooted by Partition, what was the price paid for the Independence. As a villager wryly remarks "Freedom is for the educated people who fought for it. We were slaves of the English, now we will be slaves of the educated Indians—or the Pakistanis."

The book is a difficult read delving into the tragedy at what should have been the happiest moment of the nation, its Independence. And yet, even 75 years later, one wonders what kind of madness had gripped the common people that they unleashed such horrors on each other!

Reading the book also makes me wonder – the tragedy of the Partition is hardly depicted in popular culture and it is being forgotten. There are efforts like the Partition Museum at Amritsar, but slowly it is vanishing from the conversations.

Something which should not be forgotten. 

Previously on BookMarks: Journey to the Center of the Earth

Thursday, September 19, 2024

BookMarks #120: Journey to the Center of the Earth

Title: Journey to the Center of the Earth
Author: Jules Verne
Genre: Science Fiction
Published: 1867 (French), 1871 (English)

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"as long as the heart beats, as long as body and soul keep together, I cannot admit that any creature endowed with a will has need to despair of life"

A professor encounters a book in runic. After decoding it finds it to be the story of a pathway to the center of the earth. He, alongwith his unconvinced nephew (the narrator) and an Icelandic guide go onto the path suggested, entering from a dormant volcano, encountering subterranean seas, prehistoric creatures, electromagnetic storms and finally being ejected out though a volcanic eruption in Italy!

The tale is fantastic, the narrator himself is cynical throwing accepted scientific beliefs but encountering something else underneath!

There are a few elements which stood out in this implausible tale
  • A tendency to claim territory even below the earth by assigning it their own names!
  • Hans getting paid at a fixed hour every Saturday, even though there was no actual use of that money where they were!
  • The nephew who starts cynical but becomes more convinced as he proceeds which ultimately leads to the end of the journey.
  • Never could figure out the logistics of the travel and how did they come out of a volcanic eruption unscathed!
  • I could appreciate the geological aspects much more now than when I had read the story first time in school.
Previously on BookMarks: A Thousand Splendid Suns 

Monday, September 09, 2024

Road To LA: Episode 1

After a “well done but could have been better” campaign at the Olympics and a great one at the Paralympics, it is time to hit the road for Los Angeles 2028. It is never too early to start the preparations. After all the games are less than 4 years away!

Team India News
The medal winners have been on a felicitations tour (and well deserved). Except a certain Neeraj Chopra who is back on the circuit recording another season’s best throw at the Diamond League and qualified for the Diamon League Finals. The man is built different!

Sreeja Akula has reached a career high ranking of 22, which is the highest ever for an Indian Table Tennis player. Recent results and the Ultimate Table Tennis League do show that this is one sport which is about to jump into the limelight.

Retirements
  • PR Sreejesh has retired from hockey and moving into a coaching role. Good to see Hockey India giving him a proper farewell and also retiring his No. 16 shirt.
  • Vinesh Phogat has announced her retirement and now entering the political arena and fighting different battles. Let’s see what the future holds for the two-time world championship medalist.
  • Archana Kamath has retired from Table Tennis at the age of 24 to pursue higher education. Throwing into light some of the harsh reality of the life of the sportspersons.
Others
For the sports followers of the Olympics sports – It is time to follow the other sports a bit more. Learning a bit more about the qualification process and the rules will help in tempering expectations and more importantly control the spread of misinformation. e.g., the videos circulating of men’s relay team qualifying for the Finals when the event itself had not started or the number of rumors and slanders being thrown when Vinesh was disqualified. And will definitely help in appreciating the simple fact that qualifying and competing against the world’s best is in itself a phenomenal achievement.

With social media and a number of streaming services, following the sports is not that difficult. I guess when one is expecting medals from the athletes, this tiny effort to support can be put in easily!

Personally, planning to be a bit more regular in this blog.

Till next time!

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Monday, September 02, 2024

BookMarks #119: A Thousand Splendid Suns

Title: A Thousand Splendid Suns
Author: Khaled Hosseini
Genre: Historical Fiction
Published: 2007

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One could not count the moons that shimmer on her roofs
Or the thousand splendid suns that hide behind her walls

A story set in Afghanistan, narrating the intertwined lives of two women as they live through the ever-worsening situation in their country. It is a harrowing tale, as the country slowly degenerates from a seemingly happy life to a war-torn nation, with progressively worse regimes taking over. The women who are the protagonists suffer disproportionality. Yet, they continue the struggle of living. Till one day, new hope emerges with the removal of the Taliban.

The book ends with hope. But as real-life events have shown, that hope is being snuffed out again. The Taliban whose exit leads to a newfound freedom are back in power, and slowly putting the same restrictions back in place although the global protests seem muted.

Wondering what a sequel in the present would have in store for Laila and her family. 

Previously on BookMarks: Don Quixote 

Wednesday, August 14, 2024

India @ 77



Its the eve of Independence Day, and as has been a fairly long-standing tradition, time for an all things India blogpost (2023 edition)

The 77th year in modern India’s life was an interesting one. Political events in the immediate neighborhood have reaffirmed that for all the flaws, things could have been far worse, if not for the vision of our founding fathers!

The Chandrayaan landed on the Moon. Truly a monumental achievement!

There was the biggest Indian festival – the general elections. The results of the long-drawn campaign were a bit chaotic - those who won seem unhappy, while those who continue to be in the Opposition seem the happier lot. After 10 years, there is a Leader of Opposition in the Lok Sabha. The slightly unexpected outcome has also resulted in even the media becoming less of a cheerleader and a bit more unbiased!

Meanwhile, the nuance from any public debate still continues to be completely missing. There are two sides on any issue. Either it is a slugfest or it will be one outraging, other completely silent. And almost always split on the same political line. The echo chambers are becoming deafening. Only characteristic common is the hypocrisy. 

Also, we are becoming more and more immune. An illegal hoarding collapse, train accidents, manmade "natural" disasters, horrific crimes - we pause and we move on.

There was also a random narrative of  the official name of the country being changed to a name which is also the official name! A true case of much ado about nothing.

The economy continues to give mixed signals – the stock markets continue to rise and rise, while the on-ground picture doesn’t look that rosy.

The biggest nuisance – the phone call scammers. Electricity bill scam, fake couriers, customs, number disconnection threats, video callers, kyc… the list seems to be just going on and on. It just seems to be turning into a case of when you will fall in the trap of the cyber thugs! Keep navigating this minefield and pray that you do not randomly click a malicious link.

Climate change is becoming more and more real. The actions to combat it are simply not enough. The same monsoom season has seen both excess in many parts and a dry spell in the other. Flash floods, landslides, shifting seasons are becoming the new normal.

On the sporting front – the Men’s cricket team finally broke their trophy drought with a T20 World Cup victory, while a home ODI World Cup just slipped away. 
The Olympics are done, lots of folks bemoaning the low rankings (it’s a quadrennial rant) while never even bothering to find out what happens in the interim. The fact that the second highest medals tally seems an underperformance shows that the so called sleeping global sports giant has slowly started to stir (it will still take some more time to be fully awake). 
One sport which has grown leaps and bounds has been Chess – Gukesh becoming a Challenger and Praggnandha finishing runners-up show that finally Indian chess is moving out of the mighty Vishwanathan Anand era.

On that optimistic note, closing out this post. 

Jai Hind!

Sunday, August 11, 2024

The Paris Pointers

The Indian campaign at Paris officially ended with USA’s Kennedy Blades defeating Krygyzstan’s Medet Kyzy in the semi-finals of Women’s 76 KG Freestyle dashing Reetika Hooda’s hopes of a place in the repechage rounds. Reetika had lost in Quarters despite the scores being tied 1-1 as Medet had got the last point (yes, wrestling also has a boundary count equivalent to break ties). Somehow summing up India’s campaign – a good show by most athletes, yet most of them finishing up on the wrong side of that fine line!

First a bit of a boast – my predictions were 5-12 medals for India. Well, we ended up with 6 medals and six 4th place finishes. Two more close calls in Boxing and the small matter of Vinesh’s medal that just slipped away! Given this context, it should be called India’s best Games ever, yet somehow it never felt like that!

So before starting the Road to LA28, a lookback at how India’s Games went
  1. Neeraj Chopra added to his claim of being India’s greatest individual sportsperson ever, and not just for his on-field exploits. So high has he set the bar that an Olympics silver medal seems a disappointment. After all he finished second with just two legal throws across Qualifying & Finals! And one of the rare Indian athletes who actually speaks up on issues that matter and not in a scripted manner either.
  2. The Shooting Redemption – 21 qualifiers, entries in all 15 events, 7 finalists, 3 medals and 3 4th place finishes. The shooting contingent did a good job in recovering from the washouts at Rio & Tokyo. Great show by Manu Bhaker, Sarabjot Singh and Swapnil Kusale in getting 3 medals – the most ever by any discipline at a single edition of the Games for India.
  3. Aman Sehrawat ensured that India returns with a medal from Wrestling for the 5th Games in a row. A rich legacy which even the fracas of the Wrestling Federation couldn’t stop.
  4. India are no longer the most successful Hockey team in Olympics history. With Golds in both Men’s & Women’s categories, Netherlands now have those bragging rights, although we still have the most Men’s hockey medals. Overall, quite a decent show put up by the team in retaining the Bronze from Tokyo.
  5. The 4th Place – For many years, Milkha Singh finishing 4th was India’s most celebrated Olympics moment while KD Jadhav’s bronze was barely a footnote. Hence not surprising that we have a special affinity with the 4th place! Arjun Babuta, Manu Bhaker, Lakshya Sen, Dhiraj-Ankita, Maheswari-Anantjeet and Mirabai Chanu have all added to this rich legacy. (Also, there was India – the Dutch B-girl in the Breaking, who finished 4th!)
  6. Six – 1 Silver & 5 Bronze medals, equaling their second-best performance. Not a bad one in the overall context but certainly made a case of what could have been.
If Only – Now what’s an Olympics without a lot of What Ifs
  • What if that last shot against Germany in the hockey semi-finals had gone in?
  • 100gm – That was the difference between what could have been the ultimate sporting story and a disqualification. Vinesh Phogat fought hard, beat the best, reached the Finals and yet missed out on a medal. The medal may have been gone but the reactions to the loss from certain sections revealed a telling picture! Personally, this was one of the lowest moments in all my sports following days.
  • 2.4 cm – Over a distance of 70m in the tie-break shot. Dhiraj Bommadevara hit a 10 pointer yet lost out because of being slightly further from the centre.
  • 1 KG - margin from Bronze for Mirabai Chanu. But just not to be!
  • 0.32s – the margin by which the Men’s 4x400m relay team missed a Finals berth!
  • Nishant Dev – any of the judges could have scored that Quarter-final in the other direction and my namesake would have earned a medal. But it was not to be. Boxing scoring is not easy to understand. No wonder there is a good probability of it being removed from the LA roster.
  • Manu Bhaker had a 3rd medal just slip away in a shoot-off.
  • Nisha Dahiya – an unfortunate injury while leading 8-1 with under a minute to go. She gave everything yet couldn’t hold on. It was simply painful to even view. Hope she recovers fast.
  • Reetika Hooda – losing on countback because her opponent was last to score!
What lies ahead?
Lots of felicitations for the medalists, with all and sundry staking their claim to the athlete’s success. Kudos to Manu’s team for initiating legal action against those using her image. Hopefully some introspection a la NRAI, especially from the likes of
  • Athletics: why do Indian athletes mostly peak in qualifying and not at the main event?
  • Archery: why do the archers keep flattering to deceive every single Games? They come in as World Champions, even have good ranking rounds and yet keep coming up short in the knockouts?
  • Wrestling: the medals and excellent results should not hide the shenanigans of the Wrestling Federation and a real cleanup is the order of the day. Will it happen though?
  • Badminton – they are doing mostly alright. While the men’s side has some depth, the question of who after Sindhu is now growing louder?
Let’s see if things change!

The Games beyond India
  • Mondo Duplantis vaulting higher that anyone ever has
  • Simone Biles doing a triple flip
  • Katie Ledecky winning again (what a surprise)
  • South Korean archers – who give you a glimmer of hope and then fire in those inner 10s to snuff it out!
  • The 100m Men’s Finals where everyone went under 10s
  • Isabell Werth – the first person to win a Gold at SEVEN different Games
  • Yusuf Dikec – the Turkish shooter, who proved that even silver medallists become famous!
  • That Surfing Photo
All these and more showing how far the limits can be pushed by the human body. Just how far ahead they are from “normal” folks. Well, here is a video of when Shelly-Ann Fraser-Pryce participating in the parents’ race at her kid’s school!



Also, for the online trolls – Remember these are elite athletes. Even when someone finishes 4th at the Games, they are the 4th BEST in the whole world at what they do, unlike most others! Not that the trolls would care!

Some thoughts on the Games
  • There was no marchpast and no Chariots of Fire theme playing in the Opening Ceremony. How does that even feel like the start then?
  • Also, rooms with no AC in peak summer; cases of arson; sabotage of railways; robbery incidents; a polluted Seine hosting swimming events! And yet the Games went on. Remember the abuse for much less at Rio Olympics or even the Delhi Commonwealth Games or? Why the dual standards?
Finally, as the Paris Games went on, those existential questions also kept cropping up? Why do we follow sports and link our happiness and mental well-being with something we have no control on? At times, was seriously jealous of those who have no interest in sports!

But anyways, we the followers move on! To LA28.