Tuesday, December 06, 2022

BookMarks #108: Dying To Meet You

Title: Dying To Meet You
Author: Rich Amooi
Genre: Fiction
Published: 2019

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The book presents an interesting premise, showing all the crests and troughs that life can present in one go. Liz wins a huge lottery, and a few days later is diagnosed with a life-threatening disease with minimal survival chances. While waiting for a donor, she decides to knock a few places off her bucket list, all in private charter flight. The journey takes her from Peru to Kenya to France while also meeting the new love of her life. Then things go astray, but everything ends up well. And they all lived happily ever after.

After an interesting beginning, the story becomes contrived, and especially the ending which is abrupt and is too contrived even for a pure work of fiction!

Does give a glimpse of some of the challenges faced, when you suddenly have more money than what you know what to do with it. And a peep into the super-luxurious life which only the uber-rich can afford! 

Previously on BookMarks: How To Win Friends & Influence People 

Friday, November 18, 2022

BookMarks #107: How To Win Friends And Influence People

Title: How To Win Friends And Influence People
Author: Dale Carnegie
Genre: Non-fiction, Self-help
Published: 1936

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One of the most successful books in history and reading through it gives the answer why. After all who doesn’t want to be an influencer! And to be successful in that, one needs to understand people and why they would want to help you.

An important line from the book “Every man I meet is my superior in some way.” Always keeping this in mind!

Following are some of the major points from the book.

Techniques to handling people
  1. Don’t criticize, condemn or complain. Criticism is dangerous, because it wounds a person’s precious pride, and his sense of importance, and arouses resentment. As much as we thirst for approval, we dread condemnation. It takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving.
  2. Give honest and sincere appreciation.
  3. Arouse in the other person an eager want - get the other person’s point of view and see things from that person’s angle as well as from your own
Six Ways To Make People Like You
  1. Become genuinely interested in other people.
  2. Smile – It is a messenger of your good will.
  3. Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
  4. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
  5. Talk in terms of the other person’s interests.
  6. Make the other person feel important-and do it sincerely.
How To Win People To Your Way Of Thinking
  1. The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it - When one yells, the other should listen-because when two people yell, there is no communication, just noise and bad vibrations.”
  2. Show respect for the other person’s opinions. Never say, “You’re wrong.”
  3. If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.
  4. Begin in a friendly way.
  5. Get the other person saying “yes, yes” immediately.
  6. Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.
  7. Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers.
  8. Try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view.
  9. Be sympathetic with the other person’s ideas and desires.
  10. Appeal to the nobler motives - people are honest and want to discharge their obligations. The exceptions to that rule are comparatively few
  11. Dramatize your ideas – presentation is the key
  12. Throw down a challenge – everyone has a desire to excel
Be a Leader: How to Change People Without Giving Offense or Arousing Resentment
  1. Begin with praise and honest appreciation.
  2. Call attention to people’s mistakes indirectly.
  3. Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.
  4. Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.
  5. Let the other person save face – Don’t hurt the dignity
  6. Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement. Be “hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise.” But nobody wants insincerity. Nobody wants flattery.
  7. Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to.
  8. Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct.
  9. Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.
Overall, simple guidelines which are easy to implement. All it takes is a little conscious effort to start following them, However, do wonder what people who have been played at by these principles feel on reading this book!

Previously on BookMarks: My Journey 
Also by Dale Carnegie & Associates: The Leader In You 

Friday, October 28, 2022

Road To Paris: Episode 4


Our first Qualifiers are here for Paris, with 3 Quota places earned in Shooting. There has been a slight lull in the overall action post the Commonwealth Games completion and the Asian Games sized hole in the sporting calendar. Here is a summary of the major events in the past couple of months

Quota Places Won
  • Shooting: Men’s Trap – Bhowneesh Mendiratta claimed the first Quota place for India at the World Shotgun championships. Good to see a comeback in Trap shooting for India.
  • Shooting: Men’s 10m Air Rifle – Rudrankksh Patil secured a Quota Place by winning the Gold medal at World Rifle/Pistol Championships.
  • Shooting: Men’s 50m Rifle 3 Positions – Swapnil Kusale secured a Quote place by finishing 4th at the World Rifle/Pistol Championships
There were a couple of near misses as well in the women’s section. But still a long way to go in the Qualifiers.

In other action
  • Neeraj Chopra becomes the first Indian to win the Diamond League Champions Trophy – the man continues to be trailblazer!
  • Wrestling: At the World Championships, India returned with 2 Bronze medals – Vinesh Phogat becoming the first female multiple medalist from India while Bajrang Punia claimed his 4th World Championships medal. Overall, the campaign was mixed, with some youngsters showing promise, while some favored ones getting knocked out early. Also a few of Commonwealth medalists were missing from the lineup. Begs the question – are we prioritizing an event like Commonwealth Games (with a better probability of medal) over World Championships (which are far more prestigious)
  • Table Tennis: World Team Championships. Sharath Kamal was missing. Indian men upset the 2nd seeded Germans in the group stage but couldn’t make much headway in the knock-outs. Same was the story for the women’s team also.
  • National Games have been held after a gap of 7 years!
Doping Menace: Two Tokyo Olympians have been given bans for doping - Shivpal Singh (Men’s Javelin Throw) suspended for 4 years and Kamalpreet Kaur (Women’s Discus Throw), banned for 3 years.

Qualification Summary: Sports: 1, Events 3, Entries:3, Athletes: 3

That’s it for this episode. The qualification action will be picking up in the coming weeks

Till next time!

Links: Road To Paris – Episode 3

Friday, October 21, 2022

More the Corners, More the Cobwebs

Diwali is around the corner. The biggest celebration of the season - the festival of lights, crackers, sweets, and savories. But before the main event comes its precursor - the Diwali cleaning!

Apart from being a health & hygiene activity, Diwali cleaning is also a practical demo in the subjects of archaeology, history, and mining.

You might not spot a single spider in the house the whole year but there is a cobweb, in every possible place, the corners, the beams, the pillars, the doors, the window ledge, curtains, wall hangings and showpieces. In fact, any place with a corner, there is a cobweb! How it got there is a mystery unresolved, but it is there.

The house itself seems to be generating dust – under the beds, behind and on top of the almirah, the table, on top of the shelfs, everywhere there is a thick accumulation of dust hiding, just beyond the reach of the daily jhaadu. Only excavated during deep cleaning.

There is an old English saying – “a rolling stone gather no moss”. Might be true for a stone but a rotating fan gathers dust, lots of it. The thickness of the layer of dust on its blades is the best indicator of the usage of a particular fan!

From the deepest recesses of the drawers, come out the chronicles of our shopping history - the bills. Many with the ink completely faded and some whose products may have been used and disposed of, but the bill has been retained, for what purpose, no one can say!

Of course, add to this our tendency of squirrelling away stuff for a later day. And that’s how we end up with lots of disposable cutlery (courtesy Swiggy & Zomato), a big plastic bag filled with smaller bags, old clothes which have lived their full life but still hoarded away as they await nirvana by becoming a pochhaa! Our deep entrenched habit of not wasting/reusing/recycling just ends with lot of unwanted stuff occupying all sorts of nooks and crannies in the house!

Diwali cleaning – the only time in the year when your apartment starts giving the vibes of being a bungalow in size. And during the course of it, we also decide to do the clearing more often, but as is wont with such pledges, doesn’t really happen. It is back breaking stuff, especially when at times you take a pause to catch your breath, look around and realize that somehow the house seems messier than before you started. But at the end of the day, also an oddly satisfying one!

Wishing all readers, a Very Happy Diwali! 

P.S. Expect to see a lot of LinkedIn gyaan on the subject of cleaning in the coming days!

Monday, September 26, 2022

BookMarks #106: My Journey

Title: My Journey: Transforming Dreams into Actions
Author: APJ Abdul Kalam
Genre: Non-fiction, Autobiography
Published: 2013

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Dr. Abdul Kalam’s life story in his own words, covering key moments/incidents in his life from his childhood in Rameswaram, to his scientific work and onto becoming the President of India. In simple words he has narrated his life experiences, his influences and the lessons which we as readers could draw from them.

Here are the passages which I bookmarked from his journey
  • On Dreams - Dreams are not those that we see in our sleep; they should be the ones that never let us sleep.
  • A summary of his life - love poured to the child…struggle…more struggle…bitter tears… then sweet tears…and finally a life as beautiful and fulfilling as seeing the birth of the full moon.'
  • On basic human nature - Whenever human beings find themselves alone, as a natural reaction, they start looking for company. Whenever they are in trouble, they look for someone to help them… Every recurrent anguish, longing and desire finds it own special helper.
  • The survival instinct - the only way to survive is to face your troubles and rebuild your life.
  • On happiness - Joy is fleeting, whereas true happiness and calm can come to us only after intense pain, when we have confronted ourselves in the mirror of our souls and understood the self.
  • On success - The best way to win is not to cover a win but to keep a calm and open mind to new challenges
  • On the importance of space studies in a developing country like India - on the relevance of such a programme when a vast majority in the country was battling the demons of hunger and poverty….India could only play a meaningful role in the affairs of the world if the country was self-reliant in every manner, and should be able to apply advanced technologies to alleviate real-life problems. Thus our space programme was never simply a desire to be one among an elite group of nations, neither was it a matter of playing catch-up with other countries. Rather, it was an expression of the need for developing indigenous capabilities in telecommunications, meteorology and education.
  • On what brings out the best in people - People like me, who are intrinsically shy, with the added quality of coming from a different background than my city-bred colleagues, tend to remain hidden in the shadows unless something or someone pushes us centre stage.
  • On things beyond our control - often there are powers greater than yours who dictate the consequences of your work.
  • On success & failure - we don't just build on successes, we also build on failures.
  • On Work Ethics - Total commitment is not just hard work, it is total involvement. It is also about setting a goal. It is having a goal in front of you that makes a difference to the final outcome of your hard work.
  • Life Mantra - That humaneness, generosity and understanding can never let you down.
Fairly simple but thoughts worth their weight in gold from a fascinating human being! Really liked the simplicity of words, the preciseness in thought and the flow of the narrative. This book is great example of the adage "Write to express and not to impress"

Previously on BookMarks: The Great Gatsby 

Thursday, September 15, 2022

Engineer's Day


September 15 - celebrated as Engineer’s Day in India as a tribute to Bharat Ratna Sir M Viswesvaraya – India’s first ever civil engineer and instrumental in developing many projects across the country.

From one in 1884 to more than 15 Lakh engineering graduates every year, it has been quite a journey for the Indian engineering education. However, that has also given rise to another facet - more and more students are acquiring an engineering degree and then deciding their vocation – be it Marketing, Finance, HR, Software, Various Arts fields, Politics – almost every sphere has people with engineering backgrounds in it.

Now on Engineer’s Day, floated in on WhatsApp, a few greetings, and a question about best engineering solutions to problems. While detailed solutions and SOPs are plenty and specific to the instrument/system, there are two basic steps which are almost universal (and they work, most times)
  1. Restart/Reset – Off karke On karo, a favorite of the IT world. There may also be an added step off letting the device rest for a while!
  2. Percussive Maintenance – any malfunctioning machine can be fixed by smacking it a few times. Often also followed by a restart.
And lo and behold the device is no longer malfunctioning!

Happy Engineer’s Day to all engineers!

P.S. A post on the subject from 2010

Tuesday, September 13, 2022

BookMarks #105: The Great Gatsby

Title: The Great Gatsby
Author: F Scott Fitzgerald
Genre: Fiction, American
Published: 1925

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Had heard about this book a lot, thanks to the eponymous movie which had come out a few years earlier. While I had started, but could never finish the movie, the book got better treatment. Managing to finish it entirely although the start was slow, but the pace picked up later.

The Great Gatsby is considered a classic and one of the “Great American Novels”. Showcasing the life in post-World War I New York. It has the glitz and glamour of super-rich parties contrasted with the more ordinary working-class people. And yet in essence it is just a love story with a tragic ending!

There are lots of references in the book, but the author never gets to detailing them out – the flourishing bond trading (probably a precursor to the Great Depression); the class divide between neighbourhoods; fortunes made during the Great War, Prohibition & bootlegging, fixing of the World Series. The readers get barely a glimpse of the events, although all these may or may not have played a role in building Jay Gatsby’s fortune.

Here are a few lines which stood out for me from the book.
  • Whenever you feel like criticizing anyone, just remember that all the people in this world haven’t had the advantages that you’ve had – a point to be kept in mind in this social-media triggered world
  • There are only the pursued, the pursuing, the busy and the tired – a simple classification for all human beings
  • Let us learn to show our friendship for a man when he is alive and not after he is dead – what a simple yet profound statement.
And there were some “General Resolves” in the end. 
“No wasting time…. No more smokeing or chewing….. Bath every other day…. Read one improving book or magazine per week… Save $ 3.00 per week… Be better to parents”
If one follows these simple tips, our lives would certainly be much better!

How usage of words change – holocaust is used to describe the ending tragedy. Yet how its use has evolved post the second World War into a much bigger tragedy!

Previously on BookMarks: Mendelevski’s Box 

Wednesday, September 07, 2022

Road To Paris: Episode 3


Time for the belated third episode in the Road To Paris series.

Since the last Episode, we have seen quite a bit of activity in the Indian Olympics Sports front with the action not limited just to the field of play.

Starting with the on-field action
We had the Commonwealth Games, where India learnt about a new sport – Lawn Bowls. Unfortunately, its not part of the Olympics roster yet! Here is a short sport-by-sport review of Indian performances in the Olympics disciplines.
  1. Athletics: 8 medals, a significant increase from 3 in 2018. Avinash Sable’s steeplechase run was the highlight as he broke open the Kenyan dominance with a stunning 2nd place finish, denying Kenya a clean sweep of the event for the first time in decades! The racewalkers after a decade of promise have now started delivering the medals as well. There was an India 1-2 in Triple Jump, as well as medals in Long Jump, High Jump and women’s Javelin. Things are looking up especially in the field events. Although there are doping cases also coming up. Thankfully all caught before they could make the tournament!
  2. Badminton: The Thomas Cup success was carried forward with Golds for Sindhu, Lakshya, Satwik-Chirag, and Bronze medals for Srikkanth and Terasa-Gayatri. Losing the Team Gold to Malaysia would have hurt a bit though.
  3. Boxing: Amit Panghal is back after the disappointment at Tokyo. Nikhat Zareen continues to carry the flag for women’s Boxing and there was an impressive start for Nitu Ghanghas. While not the toughest of fields, overall, it was a decent show by the Indian boxers.
  4. Cycling: David Beckham and Ronaldo being in the squad created quite a flutter. However, the performances on track did not live up to the names
  5. Gymnastics: there was nothing to write home about. The brief spotlight from Dipa Karmakar’s Rio performance has now dimmed.
  6. Hockey: Silver for men & Bronze for women – both teams back amongst medals. However, the manner of loss in the Men’s Final to Australia would have certainly hurt. And when will our teams get rid of this habit of conceding last minute goals. Lot of unnecessary heartache for the fans!
  7. Judo: 2 silvers & a bronze on Judo’s return to the Commonwealth fold with Sushila Devi replicating her 2014 silver medal.
  8. Swimming: Once again no medals, but there was an increase in the number of finals appearances by the Indian swimmers with Srihari Nataraj making two finals.
  9. Table Tennis: Achanta Sharath Kamal at the age of 40, just confirmed his status as the greatest Indian TT player. Playing multiple matches daily, he ended the tournament with 3 Golds & a Silver. While the men’s side had great returns, there was disappointment in the women’s side especially for Manika Batra who had been the breakout star of the 2018 edition. Sreeja Akula finished a creditable 4th in Singles and helped Sharath Kamal to his first-ever Mixed Doubles Gold.
  10. Triathalon: We are not in the picture yet.
  11. Weightlifting: India continued their dominant show at the event 3 Golds, 2 Silvers & 4 Bronze Medals. As expected, Mirabai Chanu dominated her category, while the likes of Jeremy & Achinta Sheuli got their first international success.
  12. Wrestling: 12 entries, 12 medals (like 2018) including 6 Golds – another dominant show by India. Not much to be read in the performances, but 2 players – Vinesh Phogat and Sakhsee Malik made quite a comeback to the national ranks.
Outside the Commonwealth Games also there was a lot of action
  1. Neeraj Chopra recovered from injury to win his first ever Diamond League event and qualify for the Diamond League Finals.
  2. At the Badminton World Championships, the Satwik-Chirag duo became the first Indian pair to win a Men’s doubles medal and continue the trend of a medal for India at every major event (World Championships/Olympics) since 2011. The others could not reach the medal rounds though.
  3. Linthoi Chanmabham became the first Indian judoka to win a World Championships gold (senior or junior) at the Cadets Championships.
And now for some off-the-field action (or rather mess)
  1. The Anti-Doping Law has been passed by the Indian parliament. There have been too many doping cases, especially in Athletics & Weightlifting with some leading names also involved. To be honest, the number of doping cases involving Indians is a national embarrassment. This is certainly a step towards cleaning up their act.
  2. Meanwhile the All India Football Federation got suspended by FIFA. Although the suspension was lifted, it doesn’t show our federations in good light. And there are administrative troubles in various other associations as well. Wonder how these will be cleaned up given the number of political figures involved in all these sports.
  3. And its not good to see Courts getting involved in matters of team selections – Tejaswin Shankar and members of TT teams were involved in multiple court battles to ensure their participation at the Commonwealth Games! As it is our Courts have a huge case backlog, no point in adding to them!
That’s it for this episode. More qualifying action is set to commence in the coming weeks.

Till next time!

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Wednesday, August 17, 2022

India @ 75

15th August – our Independence Day. Also, time for the annual blog post on all things India, a tradition which now enters its 15th edition. So, before we head into this one, here is the link for the 2021 edition.

75 years since independence – it has been a remarkable journey. The Government decided to mark the occasion as #AzaadiKaAmritMahotsav and launched the #GharGharTiranga campaign. A campaign which also resonated with the citizens. And the result - tricolours displayed everywhere, on buildings, individual houses and vehicles presented a beautiful sight (or a vihangam drishya, to borrow a phrase from Doordarshan’s Republic Day commentary).

After the travails of 2020-21, we finally seem to have got a grip on the pandemic (though still not completely over it). The covid waves are still coming, although its impact has reduced. The roll-out of vaccines, an arduous task specially in a country of our size, certainly seems to have had an effect in controlling the damage. Although we still don’t know the long-term impacts yet, but life is slowly coming back to normal.

I always believe in reading the newspaper from back to front. Because the sports pages (which come last) are filled with the stories of human achievements, unlike most of the other pages! In a non-Olympic and non-World Cup year, it would have been difficult to match the highs of Neeraj Chopra’s Olympics Gold. But our men’s Badminton team provided it by winning the Thomas Cup. Chopra himself followed it up becoming the first Indian athlete to win a World Championships Silver medal. And finally, we had the sports fans cheering the Lawn Bowls team at the Commonwealth Games, while simultaneously trying to learn the rules of this novel sport they had come across. Meanwhile the Football federation gets banned by FIFA, putting in jeopardy the upcoming Women's U-17 World Cup. Somehow, finding a cloud for a silver lining!

Where sports exist, so does betting. Although illegal, there are now a multitude of apps and sites providing a chance to win cash based on fantasy leagues! Most of them exploiting the grey area between a game of chance and a game of skill. However, some enterprising folks took this to a whole new level. They organized an entire fake IPL, streamed it, and made money off Russian punters! The sheer chutzpah of the scam is simply unbelievable! This is one story filled with lots of audacious elements – but finding people in Russia willing to bet on cricket matches takes the cake.

Whilst on the subject of online scams, there has been a surfeit of them. The mobile phone has become a minefield to be treaded through carefully. Fake job offers, fake tenants, changing numbers of legitimate businesses, sending links for payment, threatening to cut electricity supply, fake calls, hacking people’s social media accounts. Just how many traps can you avoid daily?

The initial lockdown days of Covid brought to light, how clean our environment could be with reduced human activity. While a lockdown is not the solution, it did show that the climate emergency could still be managed. In this regard, we have made a major commitment towards Net Zero by 2070. The economic costs of this transition will be quite high but something which needs to be done.

Which brings us to the economy. While we are not the worst performing, there are dark clouds looming all over the horizon. The collateral effects of Ukraine crisis, soaring energy prices and a looming food shortage are all potentially leading to a global economic recession. It will take significant political will to navigate through these VUCA times. Credit to the government for taking a stand and getting cheaper Russian crude.

On the political front, we had a change of leadership at the top. Meanwhile, in various states, the state governments keep changing not through elections but via backroom political manipulations and resort management. Certainly not a sign of a healthy democracy.

Meanwhile the social media discussions and debates continue to become more and more toxic. The balance is completely gone and replaced by a “with us or against us” mentality. Wonder what vaccine will help in resolving this.

Overall, it has been a year of coming out of chaos but there are threats looming everywhere. Let’s see what the next one holds.

On that note, Happy Birthday India! Jai Hind!

Wednesday, August 03, 2022

BookMarks #104: Mendelevski’s Box

Title: Mendelevski’s Box
Author: Roger Swindells
Genre: Fiction, Historical
Published: 2019

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Mendelevski’s Box is the tale of a Holocaust survivor after his return from Auschwitz to Amsterdam and how he rebuilds his life picking up the pieces of his erstwhile life with help from some old and many new acquaintances.

Overall, an engaging read, although it is a bit difficult in the beginning to read through the not so familiar Dutch names. The story is not about the holocaust itself but how survivors emerge from it. We still get to learn about the horrors. Yet, it is also a tale of humanity. How different people tried to help and support the cause against the Nazis and then post the war how they helped each other in rebuilding their lives. It also depicts the chaos in the immediate aftermath of the war – shortages of almost everything, the currencies becoming invalid, trying to figure out the genuine cases when all paperwork has gone missing, the insurance money and property disputes etc. And there is the backdrop of punishing both the war criminals and those who profited from it.

There is also a tiny twist in the tale! Overall, a good story of humanity rising from one of its worst sufferings. 

Previously on BookMarks: Life Is Short And So Is This Book